How Can I Help my Grandparents’ Mental Health?

oxfordcbt
11 Jan 2021
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Grandparents Mental Health

‘Self-care activity’ is a foreign term to many older people. Growing up many felt ‘emotions’ weren’t an encouraged topic of conversation. ‘Depression’ and ‘Anxiety’ were also less heard of. Over the past nine months many older people have found themselves alone in lockdown, no longer able to see their friends or hug Grandchildren. Grandparents’ mental health has become a real concern. 

Mental Health during Lockdown

The lockdown restrictions are perhaps harsher for the older age group, many of whom live alone. It’s a lonely experience. Hugging grandchildren is something that brings many joy, but even this simple pleasure is too dangerous. The increased dangers of Covid-19 for older people also don’t help with mental health. 

Over lockdown, younger people were working remotely, either with school, internships, or jobs. A lot of grandparents are retired , so dance classes, walking groups, and meeting up with friends usually fill their day. But these are banned. Instead they are confined within four walls of the house passing time with crosswords, scrabble, books, and planning meals. The days can feel a little lacklustre. 

For Grandparents who aren’t as tech-savvy as the younger generation, days can be markedly quiet. There is little to distract them from their thoughts. There is no virtual reality to escape to until their favourite TV show comes on in the evening. Video calling for many is a step too far, so a voice on the phone is as close as they get to interacting with others. 

Talking about Mental Health 

If you’ve ever tried talking to a Grandparent about mental health it may feel as though they couldn’t grasp what you meant. The reality is likely down to  growing up in different times. These days, the  younger generation follow mental health accounts on Instagram, listen to meditations on YouTube and own bullet journals to track moods. Very aware of the importance of mental health, mental wellbeing and self care, to the older generation it can be a different language.  This can make it harder to talk about how they are feeling. Nevertheless, if you ask what cheers them up, the answers are likely to be sensible, tried-and-tested remedies. ‘Lose yourself in a good book’, ‘go for a walk in the countryside’, ‘call a friend’, or ‘develop a routine’. 

Ways to Support Your Grandparents’ Mental Health

#1 Send Them a Letter

It’s easy to text someone a message, but sending a letter involves time and effort, and this is felt by the person receiving it. A recent study showed that suicidal patients who received personalised letters were 80% less likely to have a repeat suicide attempt than controls who received no letters. When people are feeling down, they can sometimes find it hard to remember who cares about them. This loneliness has been enhanced during lockdown. Letters can counteract that feeling! The long monologue also enables you to dive into how you’ve been feeling – they can be therapeutic to write and to read someone else’s life experiences in more depth.

#2 Go For a Walk in the Countryside

If lockdown restrictions allow, green leaves, sunshine, exercise and a chat are simple remedies for low mood. Exercising in the outdoors boosts self-esteem and mood at any age, and has an enhanced effect for the mentally ill. Visiting places with water can be particularly  beneficial for mood, so if able,  go for a walk by the river or find a local pond to feed the ducks!

#3 Just Listen!

A listening ear at the end of a phone when times get hard can be all we need to lift our spirits. Life may be lonely for Grandparents who are self-isolating, and a sense of companionship could benefit their well-being.

At OxfordCBT we offer in person and online therapy to provide tailored advice and strategy to manage and help your mental health. Please get in touch if we can help.

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